In the last moments of saying goodbye, tell them how much they have meant to you. List all the reasons you’re grateful for them. Its okay, even comforting, to let on you know the end is near. It’s also important to follow their lead if they say their ready to go, savor the moments they have left. In Pat’s last moments, you find that not uttering a word can speak volumes. Holding his hand as he holds yours back and gazing into his eyes communicates compassion, love and gratitude for a shared lifetime. With or without accompanying conversation, your presents and touch rank among the most eloquent signs of love. On the last day, you sing him a song and hug him tight in his hospital bed. Go to school and you get a text in class nine minutes into your English class. Your uncle has passed away. You hold it together and choose not to share it. A few sluggish sad days pass. You play Pandora and stare out the window. Every song that comes on seems meant for you. Like a gift from God or Pat perhaps. I guess there’s no right way to say goodbye. I honestly don’t know if you can ever fully say goodbye and feel it was good enough. But, we can do our best to love and show the ones they are deeply important to us.
